Pohsuan Zaide

Poshuan is a Registered Clinical Counselor with an M.A. in Counseling Psychology, and two decades of experience working as a psychotherapist/counselor and clinical supervisor/trainer in Mental Health, Addictions, and Employee Assistance Programs, in a variety of settings from hospitals to outpatient clinics and inpatient treatment centers. Currently, between producing photographs and writing, she sees clients for therapy in a small private practice.

Valentine's Day: all we need is love, or is it?

Love is much more than a many-splendored thing. It's ecstatic, incredible and sheer hard work.

Valentine's Day: my husband left me for a younger woman. Now what?

Separating from the one you've loved is like pulling apart the ties that bind, the connections that have been forged over time and the shared life experiences; it's, at best, an exhausting thing, and...

Valentine's Day: looking for a healthy other

Now that you're working towards becoming a “healthy me," you feel ready to hook up with a partner, someone to curl up with when the Vancouver weather gets nasty, someone to share the good times and...

Valentine's Day: love quiz

Dating is about going out there to meet people and have fun. You don't have to be a relationship expert to date, but you do have to be somewhat confident about who you are and what you bring to the...

Valentine's Day: when your partner says, "It's Complicated" on Facebook

Just yesterday, you had Rihanna's "We Found Love" on blast. Now, it's two weeks before Valentine's Day, and your boyfriend's Facebook relationship status says, "It's Complicated." A posting on...

Valentine's Day: if love is a verb then what are the actions?

There isn’t a magic formula that works for everyone. Even the popular online dating site Match.com doesn't have it. There are too many variables and complexities involved in human relationships, but...

What Matters Most: Living a More Considered Life

In a telephone interview with well-regarded Jungian analyst and author James Hollis, from Houston, I spoke to him about his new book, What Matters Most: Living a More Considered Life. I asked him...

How to Become a Healthier Me

If you’ve taken the Dating and/or the Relationship Quizzes previously posted in this column (Dec 17, 2008), you will have some idea of the things I will be talking about in this one. Though...

Online Dating FAQ’s

Regardless of which mechanism you choose to launch yourself into the dating arena, you will likely be considering the following questions: 1. How should I present myself? How much shall I reveal? 2....